There was a woman whose husband loved her very much. This woman was asked the secret of her happy life.
Does she cook very tasty food? Or is her husband infatuated with her beauty? Or has she been a woman with too many children? Or is there another secret to his love?
The woman replied: The reasons for a happy life are in the hands of the woman herself after the presence of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala. If a woman wants, she can make her house a paradise and if she wants, she can make it a hell.
Do not think that wealth is the cause of happiness. How many rich women are there in history whose husbands turned away from them.
Nor is it a great virtue to be a woman who bears many children. Many women gave birth to tens of children, but they could not get any special affection and love from their husbands, instead they reached the point of divorce.
Even cooking good food is not a virtue, women are seen complaining about their husbands even after cooking in the kitchen all day.
Then tell me the secret of this happy and joyful life? And how did you deal with the problems and difficulties faced between you and your husband? he replied: Whenever my husband would get angry and he was undoubtedly a very angry man, I used to remain completely silent (very respectfully) at those moments. Silence with respect means that the eyes do not reflect contempt and sarcasm. A man is very wise and realizes such a situation. So why didn’t you go out of the room like this?
He said: Be careful not to act like that, it will make it seem like that, you want to escape from him and don’t want to know his point of view. Silence is necessary, along with it, it is equally important to not only listen to what the husband says, but also to agree with him. When my husband finished speaking, I used to leave the room, because after all this noise and drinking, I thought he needed rest.
I would engage in my daily household chores, and try to keep my mind off the war. So what did you do in this environment? Abandonment for several days and stop talking etc.? She said: Not at all, the habit of abandoning the conversation is very bad and like a double-edged sword to spoil the relationship with the husband. If you stop talking to your husband, it may be painful for him at first. At first he will try to talk to you. But as the days go by, he will get used to it. If you stop talking to him for a week, he will develop the ability to not talk to you for two weeks and maybe he will learn to live without you.
Make your husband get into such a habit that he feels suffocated without you as if you are like air for him. As if you are the water he is drinking to survive. Bad Saba Banu, not Sarsar.. What did you do after that? The woman said: After two or more hours, I would go to him with juice or hot tea, and politely tell him, take tea. I was sure that he would be craving for that tea or juice at that moment. This act of mine and my conversation with my husband was in such a way that there was no anger or fight between us. Whereas now my husband was insisting on me and repeatedly asking if I am not angry with him. Every time I used to reply to him that no, I am not angry at all.
After that he always apologized for his harsh behavior and talked to me lovingly for hours. So did you believe his loving words? Yes, of course. I am not ignorant. That I should believe the things my husband says to me in anger and not believe the things he says to me in a calm and loving state? So where did your self-respect go?
What is the name of respect? If you believe the bitter words of an angry person and make him a problem of your self-respect, you do not give any importance to what he is saying to you in a loving and calm environment. ! I immediately forgot the insults and bitter words given in this state of anger and listened carefully to his loving and useful words.
Yes, the secret of a happy and loving life is in the mind of a woman, but this secret is tied to her tongue.
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